Guilt-less Desserts & Treats for your Family
You know when you’ve had a baby and suddenly there’s all these things happening to your body, and your life, that no one tells you about. When you ask someone “Why didn’t you tell me about X?” the response is always a sly grin and “because if you knew then you would haven’t have done it”. Women, and movies, often paint pregnancy and childbirth as romantic periods where you glow and ooze beauty and are engulfed by so much love and happiness that you might simply burst. I’m sure for some women this may all be true but the rest of us…it can be hard work, and many times things don’t go to plan.
I’m a planner. I like to know what I am doing and have the direction well set before I embark on any course of action (or at least I was before children). My pregnancies where all well planned and prepared for, but they didn’t necessary go according to plan. And as for my birth plan; it just ended up being list of wishes and might-have-beens. For whatever reason the plans are broken it is how we deal with them and learn to move on from them that is important… and also hard work.
What the women and the movies don’t tell you is that there will be times when, as a parent, you make the best decision you can in that moment, in that second, and sometimes you regret it. Sure, if you had longer to contemplate the situation, weigh up the pros and cons and do some research you might have come to a different conclusion but you didn’t have that then. You did the best you could do and that’s ok. It’s not brilliant, it’s not terrible. It’s ok, and that’s ok too.
So this is what I have learnt: stop torturing yourself about things that you no longer have control over. Learn from them and don’t do it again, but don’t continually beat yourself up over it. The guilt and the anxiety over the “should have’s, could haves, would haves” is not healthy nor helpful.
Learn from the experience; don’t let it rule you.
Reward yourself for the good; don’t only punish the bad.
Remember you are only human; a super awesome human but one without superhero powers nonetheless.
Forgive yourself. You tried your best and sometimes that’s all you can do.
My other odd addition to this fudge was spinach. We have a lot of spinach growing in the vegetable garden. It’s the one thing I can grow without trying; it’s practically wild! I add to most main meals and the occasion treat dish. Spinach doesn’t have an overpowering taste so it can be hidden quite easily. In this Chocolate Peppermint Fudge the spinach looks like mint leaves (which would make much more sense) so it’s easy to trick people.
If you’ve never tried freezer fudge before than imagine a cross between an Ice cream and fudge. It’s firmer than Ice cream but not hard like traditional candy fudge. It’s slightly gooey but very chocolatey and takes 2 minutes to make. Unfortunately the waiting time is a bit longer but it’s worth it!
Chocolate Peppermint Fudge
- 1 cup ripe Avocado approximately 1 large by measure to be sure- this can be swapped for Banana
- 1/4 Cup Cocoa
- 1 teaspoon Vanilla Extract
- 1/2 to 1 1 1/2 teaspoons of Peppermint Extract add to taste (Omit of only want Chocolate Fudge)
- 1/4 Cup Maple Syrup
- 2 Tablespoons Coconut Oil melted
- 1/2 Cup Spinach optional..but makes it weirdly good!
- Place all the ingredients into a blender and process until smooth.
- Line a baking dish/tray with baking paper and pour in the fudge mixture.
- The size of the tray will determine the thickness and height of your fudge pieces. My tray was 12cm (4 1/2 inches) by 20cm (8 inches) and the pieces were approximately 1/2 inch in height.
- Place the tray in the freezer for a minimum of 4 hours but preferably overnight.
- Eat the fudge straight from the freezer and store there when not eating.